Eeny, Meeny, Miny, Moe
Question: I’m invited to two weddings on the same day. One is from a friend who I've known since kindergarten, but haven't seen in probably three years. The other is for one of my closest buddies since I moved to New York City. Whose do I go to?
Answer: Which has the better looking menu?
No, it’s simple - you go to the wedding of the friend you have the most shared history with, which is presumably the friend you’ve known the longest. People go to relatives’ weddings out of a sense of obligation (instead of pure excitement) all the time. It’s about keeping up tradition and bearing witness. The same stance should be taken for long-time friends.
The caveats: if the friend you like best is your best friend in the entire world, or if the friend-from-way-back is getting married in the absolute middle of nowhere, loyalty and tradition can take a back seat.