Knock, Knock! Anybody Home?
Question: An old college friend–well, more of an acquaintance really–contacted me out of the blue (we haven’t spoken for at least three years) and asked for a place to stay when she and her boyfriend are in town. She wants to stay for a long weekend and I don’t know how to say no! We have an extra room but even so, it's not something I want to do.
Answer: Anyone who hasn’t spoken with you in years and has the gall to straight out ask to crash at your place, with the boyfriend in tow, doesn’t even deserve the courtesy of being fed little white lies like “Oh, we have other company the exact same weekend—shucks!” Tell her straight up that it’s not convenient for you to host her—you needn’t go into detail as to why. Suggest some possible hotels in the area she might find suitable and leave it at that. Or, if you would like to see her anyway, take her out to dinner while she’s there and catch up. If you have something worth rekindling, you can extend an open invitation to stay at yours “next time.”
The caveats to this, of course, is if she lives somewhere you really want to visit in the near future, in which case you should probably dust off your guest towels.