When Travel Puts a Budding Romance on Ice
Question: I spent a night (a bit drunkenly) with a friend of mine from my very small grad school program. We had been flirting before (I think) - hard to tell because he’s shy, and I’m shy. Due to various circumstances, we weren’t able to talk about what happened the morning after, and I took off for a three-month research trip to Europe the day after.
We’ve had some awkward contact (“liking” Facebook statuses, messages), but neither of us has made a move. What’s the best strategy here? Wait until I get back? Keep up some stream of communication? I have real feelings for this guy, and the uncertainty is killing me.
Answer: Wait until you get back. Uncertainty is a bitch, but there’s not much you can do from over there. Even if the two of you were to “like” yourselves into blatant Mutual Infatuation Territory, it doesn’t change the fact that you are in Europe for the next few months. Do you really want to try and start up a relationship over Facetime or Gchat? No, you do not.
If he writes to you, by all means, respond and keep things open. Just don't spend all of your time hunched over your laptop, eking out carefully-worded prose and pining to be back in class already. You should be out having fun and fraternizing with the locals.
If it’s meant to work out, it will—once you’re back.