Eyeing Your Ex's Friend
Question: I just broke up with my girlfriend of two years. She’s a great girl and we had a good run, but we’re just not meant to be (which I think she has come to realize too). My dilemma, though, is that I really dig one of her friends and am wondering how to go about asking her out. I’m assuming that if I wait a respectable period of time (as in, a few months), then it’s ok? I still care about my ex enough to not want to burn any bridges, though.
Answer: How good a friend is this friend? Could they ever be described as “besties?” Did they live together in college? Do they go to brunch every weekend? If any of these is the case, then you’re heading into dangerous territory. Two years is a long time for any relationship—to end it and suddenly take up with a good friend of hers would likely be a slap in the face (the same goes if they’re frenemies). Even if she’s over you too, she probably doesn’t want to see you pawing her friend every Friday night.
The safest course of action, if you truly do want to avoid hurting her feelings, is to wait until your ex is dating someone else. It will be much easier for her to take the high road when she’s googly-eyed over someone new. But beware! Girls tend to overshare with girlfriends, so if they are close, chances are this friend already knows that you have chronic foot odor and a scary cum face.