What's the Deal with Horoscope Lovers?
Question: Why do people believe in the explanatory power of Astrological signs? It truly perplexes me. Reading Horoscopes seems like a fun way to throw general advice around, sure, and I can certainly appreciate getting the right sentence at the time I need it. That's bound to happen when you read a paragraph of advice every day.
But when I hear people say things like, "I don't get along with Leos," or "I bet you're an Aries. See, I knew it!" I feel that the person speaking is a little crazy.
I begin to wonder what other superstitions they hold. I imagine they believe crystals are powerful and that vaccination is maybe good to avoid. Maybe I'm just worried about measles. Anyway, what am I missing? I'm willing to listen.
Answer: Well I'm certainly not the one to convince you. It strikes me as a lot of hogwash too. Half the people I know are Cancers like me and we couldn't be more different. But you're asking for an explanation of what draws others to it, and that I can give you.
People are into astrological readings and horoscopes because they're tools in examining the things they already hold to be true. They're like affirmational magnifying glasses. If we read something in a horoscope we identify with—or wish to identify with—we believe it. When it's something we don't identify with, we discard it. In truth, we could pull little truth kernels out of any horoscope, no matter who it's written for.
Case in point: when I first started dating my now husband, a friend of mine thought it would be fun to read our love pairing by Astrology Queen Susan Miller. We got his sign wrong, though, and when she read the love match it was a complete disaster, with a prognosis basically akin to: "Well, this is going to be really difficult. If you give it your all you have a slight chance of remote happiness, so good luck with that."
Despite having felt pretty excited about the relationship up to that point, I immediately started to self-identify with all manner of supposed indicators of our incompatibility. He was rather focused on his business, wasn't he? And we do get our channels crossed at times, don't we?? Luckily, once we figured out our mistake and reassessed for our correct signs, we were a match made in heaven. Do I sound like part of the cult yet?
I take it with a big old grain of salt, naturally, as do most people. So if you're mystified by someone who reads quite deeply into it all, simply decided how much quirkiness you're willing to stomach in fraternizing with them. A horoscope lover who runs a killer book club? Yes, please. A horoscope lover who supports Trump? Maybe not so much...