Clingy Houseguests: The Smelliest of Fish
Question: A friend-of-a-friend asks if he can stay with me every year for the marathon. Each time I say yes because it's not a big deal... except he also expects me to be his social chair for the weekend. He ends up following me around to hang out with my friends, attend parties, etc. I do not enjoy hanging out with him, but I feel bad not inviting him along with me, especially since he's staying with me. How do I get out of this?
Answer: Easy. The next time he asks to stay with you, inform him that you already have a houseguest for the marathon. Inform him sadly but firmly. No more room at the inn means no more social hosting duties.
This isn't mean. Offering a friend-of-a-friend refuge (and entertainment) in the past doesn't obligate you to do so every year. Let him grace other acquaintances with his constant presence. He may even discover the splendors of Airbnb.
What's more, this tactic needn't be deceptive. Simply invite someone to pay a visit over same weekend whose company you do enjoy. I'm sure your mother or long-lost cousin Bob would be delighted to see you.