Inviting Coworkers to Your Wedding
Question: Where do you draw the line in inviting coworkers to your wedding? I ended up inviting my old boss for a number of reasons, including that she invited me to her big Indian one, but I don't consider her a friend and she's thrown me under the bus a few times. The person I'm waffling about is someone I really like and who I'll be working quite closely with in the future. She and I aren't technically "friends" yet but we are friendly and have two work friends in common who I am close with and did invite. I'm starting to feel bad about not inviting this new, potential friend/colleague as well. Should I have?
Answer: When it comes to inviting coworkers to weddings. you draw the line wherever budget and intimacy dictates. The money might be there, but the desire to have your boss mingle with Crazy Uncle Jimmy might not. I know some who invite their entire team and others (myself included) who don't invite any. It's so very up to you.
The important element here is that you and the coworker in question aren't true friends yet. Though it's fair to assume you will be one day, you actually have no idea. Inviting her to your wedding, the most personal of days, is almost forcing her hand on the friendship front. It's like the dating equivalent of asking someone to take a romantic trip to Paris with you after date number two. She may feel obligated to attend and you could both end up feeling like an awkward number of steps have been skipped.
You've already invited the coworkers you want to be there (your friends) as well as one who you feel obligated to include (your under-the-bus-throwing boss). Stop there. Your budget and sanity will thank you later.